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Whether you’ve been married or in a relationship for decades or just for a few years, you know – as does every other couple on the planet – that being together is rarely smooth-sailing. Every couple – whether opposite sexes or same sex – faces challenges throughout their relationship, ranging from money problems to challenges with the kids to communication issues that threaten to bring an end to the everything they hold dear.

Fortunately, no one needs to work out all the kinks on their own. Couples counseling – that opportunity to let someone else guide you to solutions and healing – is available to anyone who needs help solving a relationship challenge. It’s important to realize that it’s okay to reach out for counseling for both major issues and smaller bumps in your relationship, even when it isn’t headed for break-up. You may just need help with a few issues and that’s okay.

Not all couples counseling is created equal

There are many different types of couples counseling and a variety of approaches that can be applied to help couples reach compromises and solutions to what’s been holding them back in the happiness realm.

Dr. Bolgar and her associates are trained in a variety of approaches to such therapy and have long been helping couples come back together again, happier than ever and glad that they partook of such help. Others have decided, through therapy, that maybe it’s not best to continue their relationship. That happens. But by choosing the right therapy for you and your mate, you can often figure out in which direction to proceed.

By using options such as traditional cognitive behavioral therapy as well as solution-focused therapy, rational emotive therapy, psychodynamic therapy, and more, our doctors can help you identify triggers, behaviors, or self-defeating thoughts, and assist you in highlighting your capacities and perhaps learning to take responsibility for your successes and failures. All of these help couples figure out what makes them tick or not tick, so to speak.

That said, it’s important for those seeking couples counseling to locate a practice that isn’t stuck on just one form of therapy. After all, couples aren’t cookie cutter models of each other. Every couple is different and faces unique challenges, which is why one might benefit from simple talk therapy while others might need something totally different.

Why consider couples counseling?

There are often a number of signs that can indicate it’s time to think about counseling as an option to saving your marriage or relationship, no matter how long you’ve been together. And, remember…not every problem means that you’re broken as a couple. You might just need a little adjustment!

  • If you’re experiencing a major life change, you made need a bit of help getting through it. This might include the birth of a child, the death of someone very close to you, or even a major move from one place to another.
  • If you feel like you get more support from outside of your relationship than you do from your partner, it may be time to seek help.
  • If you feel like you are unheard, disrespected, or believe that communication is lacking overall, it could be time to look for assistance.
  • If you are having difficulty with your sex life or are dissatisfied with it, counselors can often help get you back on track again.
  • If you feel as if you and your partner are constantly having the same fight or are rehashing the same issues again and again, it’s probably time to let someone who is unbiased step in and help you come to a solution.

There are tons of other reasons for seeking counseling, but the major thing to remember is that if you are truly committed to the one you love, opting for couples therapy is not a sign of weakness. It’s actually a sign of further commitment. Those who opt for counseling truly want to take the time and effort it takes to get their love back on track, and that’s commendable.

To learn more about the couples counseling options offered by Dr. Ellie Bolgar and Associates, call our office to set up an appointment with one of our counseling professionals.